Jai Shree Krishna, my name is Hemang Bhatt and I offer my services as a Hindu Priest. I specialise in silent Hindu wedding ceremony service.
Groom's arrival is done first when the bride’s family will walk to the entrance carrying a coconut to receive the groom's party. The coconuts by both parties are exchanged as a gesture of the marriage contract.
The bride’s arrival is when the priest chant the Manglashtaka prayers. The bride will then gracefully walk to the Mandap escorted by her relatives.
Exchanging garlands the couple's first meeting is symbolized by the exchange of colourful garlands that symbolise beauty, colour and happiness. The couple once in the canopy, are also given the respect befitting the spirits of Lord Mahavishnu and Laxmi as the union of these two spirits is the most perfect of Hindu marriages. The Groom and Bride’s feet are washed by the bride's parents with milk and honey as a sign of respect.
Beginning the marriage union is done by the bride's parents will place a "Varmala" around the groom which represents 18 puranas (Holy Books), the 6 Sastra (Holy Scriptures) and the 4 Vedas of Hinduism. The Varmala will then be placed around the bride as well to begin the union with Holy Blessings. A cloth will be placed around the groom with the other end tied to the bride's saree (Chundadi) with a Holy knot known as Chedabandhan.
Panigrahanam (Hastmelap) - Bride's parents then take the Bride's hand and give it to the Groom in an official handover ceremony blessed by the priest also known as Kanyadaan.
Couple now accept each other’s hands with the blessings of Heavenly Gods with a promise to stay together for the rest of their lives.
Mangal Fera – Couple will walk around a sacred fire to affirm their marriage. Offerings of Ghee, Sesame seeds and Barley are poured into the fire and there is chanting of MATRAS (RASTRABRAT OM, JAYA OM AND ABYATA OM to the stars and planets, the moon, the sun and to Vishnu their preserver). Each round of the four signifies the blessings of
Dharma (meaning the development of basic human principles in their everyday life).
Artha (attending to your everyday duties under the umbrella of Dharma)
Kaama (raising a family) and to promise that they will teach their children the principles and values of their heritage and traditions.
Moksha to promise that when they fulfilled their life with material needs, they will live lives of a hermit and free themselves of worldly goods for the spiritual journey.
Taking the seven marriage vows – Saptapadi
1. They vow to be there for each other in the hard and happy times.
2. They vow to take care of each other's family.
3. They vow to be sweet spoken to each other.
4. They vow to be the best friends.
5. They vow to raise a family together with quality and traditions.
6. They vow never to cheat each other
7. They vow to be giving in life and be supportive to the world.
Sindoor – The application of Sindoor is not just a traditional ritual, but a practice which stimulates good health. It serves as a longevity prayer for the husband and it helps the woman's psychological well-being. Its colour represents the Power and health for a healthy Bride and its constituted as a part of her wedding beauty. This is equally important to a Ring ceremony in the western world.
Mangalsutra- This is a traditionally a Black thread tied to the bride as a mark of love and loyalty also known as Kali-Kanthi (to avoid bad luck). The Groom ties this to the bride on the wedding day as his way of saying that I wish my wedding to be safe, happy and successful. It also is a mark of all absorbing of negativity because of its black colour and thereby no negativity can be passed on to the bride. Modern day financial abundance has allowed this black thread to be exchanged for a Golden necklace with Black beads instead of the black thread.
Kansaar- Any sweet occasion needs to be celebrated with sweetness and so this is the time when the Bride’s mum comes to bless the couple and feed them their first meal, a special occasion. She wishes well to the couple and provides them with sweetness and nourishment for their wedded life ahead.
Akhanda Saubhagyavati – This is the blessings by the married ladies of the family. They whisper the blessings of Uma-Mahesh, Laxmi-Narayana and so wish that the way these holy couples had their successful married lives, we wish the same for you.
Ashirvaad – Blessings of the parents make an important part of the Pooja as we revere our parents as Devas – Matrudeva and Pitrudeva. This means that parents have been there for us while we needed help to grow, learn and understand this world. Couple ask for their special blessings to start their own special journey ahead.
Vidai - parting ceremony It is often a very emotional parting. The newlyweds finally depart and sometimes a ritual requires the crushing of a small coconut under the tyre of the newlywed's car. This is a symbol for a safe journey back to his home and their new life. Sisters of the bride cross the front of the car as it is about to leave to show how much they will be missed.
Aeki-Beki or Koda Kodi This is yet another interesting ritual observed at the groom’s house and often at the wedding Mandap too. The newlywed couple is made to play a game called Aeki-beki. In this, several coins and a ring are placed in a tray of water covered by milk and vermilion. It is believed that the person, who finds the ring three times out of five, would be the ruler of the house.
Ghar ni Laxmi The bride’s first step into her new home is considered auspicious. She is the Ghar ni Laxmi or the Goddess Laxmi who will bring wealth and good fortune to her home. The mother-in-law welcomes the bride with Arti and tilak. Then she places a vessel, filled to the brim with rice, at the entrance of the house. The bride knocks the vessel down gently with her right foot, spilling some of the rice over. The rice is a symbol of wealth and by following the ritual she conveys full understanding of her duties and responsibilities towards her new home.ere.
The married couple pursues Dharma, performing the righteous duty, Artha, the acquisition of wealth, Kama, the enjoyment of natural desires and Moksha, the fulfilment of Spiritual duties towards the next life. They lead a productive life of work, service and enjoyment, fulfilling various duties and obligations towards themselves, their families and society at large.